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Firmly in I-can’t-say-anything-right Territory

Oh how I love my daughter! These days though she makes it pretty clear that I can’t say anything right. We have these maddening arguments during which Coco tells me again again that I either said something and then took it back or didn’t say it the right way.

Tonight: perfect example. She asked me to come up to her room in five minutes. I said I would. I went up, laid down and kissed her goodnight. As I walked toward the door she said “you said you would stay five minutes!” When I explained I didn’t, she insisted I did. I told her I hadn’t she said I had.

And around and around we go.

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Sunday Morning with the Times

Reading the paper on Sunday is one of Layr’s most treasured events. There he sat this morning with a New York Times article folded in front of him. Coco was on one side, me on the other. Each time he bent his head down to read, he heard a chorus of……

“Daddy?”

“Larry?”

“Daddy?

“Larry?”

[Layr's response to this anecdote was, "yes, that is my life."]

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Cooking

There has long been discussion about my “slash and burn” method of cooking in my family (original not married). This description was coined by my mother. This morning, after turning off the smoke alarms, Layr said to me, “can I get you some matches and a log? You can have all the smells of cooking without ruining the food.”

This on the 10th anniversary of our first date.

Later in the morning, Layr snuck up on me while I was drying my hair in the bathroom. I was under the impression he was down in the basement because he had disappeared for a bit. Not realizing he was upstairs, I asked Coco to go find him. As Coco walked down the stairs, Layr came to the doorway and shouted “AAAHHHHH!” I screamed like I was starring in Friday the 13th. I then dropped my hairdryer, chased him into Coco’s room and hit him with my brush (on the sole of his shoe). He laughed so hard, he coughed uncontrolably.

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Ode to Dancing

One of my earliest memories is of listening to a Beatles song my father played on a Roberts reel to reel. I was probably four years old. My recollection is that I danced.

My father had what I considered a great stereo system. It had big speakers, a Pioneer receiver, a turntable and the reel-to-reel. Though I was forbidden to touch the reel to reel, I figured out how it worked and went ahead and used it anyway. As with much of what I did, after having been forbidden to it, my father seemed to resign himself to it and at the same time admired my moxy.

We had a tape of Stevie Wonder’s Songs in the Key of Life that even got my mother dancing. The tape had been given to us by one of my dad’s friends. In my mind’s eye, I still see the three of us, my mother, sister and I dancing in the den. That is still one of my favorite cd’s.

My mother dancing was a rare thing, which made it all the more exciting to me when she joined in. She loved to watch me dancing, though and I loved showing off for her. I remember dancing in our kitchen to Steely Dan’s Peg, much to her amusement.

My father would cut the rug on holidays if I played some Frank Sinatra. He spin me around the room, happy that I twisted his arm. I always was sorry when whatever song we were dancing to ended.

My sister is a fabulous dancer. When I was in high school, one of our afternoon pastimes was turning the stereo up LOUD and dancing in our family room. We wouldn’t dance together. As I remember it, we’d face in opposite directions, orbiting each other as we moved around the room.

We could dance for hours.

When we lived in Boston together, some years ago now, we went out one night to one of the clubs together. We were older than most everyone there. Toward the end of the night we were surrounded by college guys all holding onto their beers, swaying to the music. None of them had asked us to dance.

My husband and I took a swing dance class once, not long after we started dating. We were enthusiastic about perfecting the steps. We’d get up in the morning, put on Glenn Miller’s String of Pearls and dance naked in the dining room.

When I was pregnant I danced right through our creative department one afternoon while listening to my iPod. I felt excited and the music just carried me away. Two of my bosses, in conversation across the way, saw me but I didn’t care.

Two days after Minky was born, I laid her down on our couch after she had fallen asleep. I put my headphones on and danced with abandon to Lou Rawls You’ll Never Find. I know that I was running on only adrenaline. In the subsequent months, I’ve twirled her around plenty. I think that soon, she’ll join me.

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